Weaponized incompetence involves individuals deliberately or unknowingly leveraging their perceived incompetence to achieve personal goals or manipulate others. This behavior can manifest in various ways, such as consistently failing to fulfill responsibilities, feigning ignorance, or relying on others to clean up the resulting mess.

If you’re in any singles groups on Facebook or casually scrolling through Instagram you’ve seen and heard the disappointment. The posts usually start with how disappointed the sister is with dating this generation of men, to how men don’t call anymore and some variation of hopeless memes about him not being “the one.”

I have been single for going on 4 years now and while I have been in a handful of ‘situationships’ over the past few years, my last serious relationship ended in August 2017. During this time, I have had a variety of experiences that have shaped the way I approach being single and dating.