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  • Meagan A. Culberson

How to control your f*Cking anxiety!

I had my first anxiety attack last year! I admit, I used to think that they were made up and weren't all that big of a deal. However, after experiencing one I wanted to know everything about how to prevent them! Anxiety forms when we worry about the future or obsess over failing at something. My anxiety typically pops up when I am stressed about work. Sometimes I think that 'I am not qualified for this position', or that 'I don't know what I am doing', but I have to remind myself that God open this door for me, he placed me here, he will see me through it and he knows I can do it!

If you never had an anxiety/panic attack, good for you! I hope you never get one, but this post still has some useful information on how to better relax and maintained your stress so, I suggest you keep reading!

Take a Cold Shower

If you are like me, you like your showers boiling hot! However, when you feel an anxiety attack coming along a boiling hot shower may not be the best method. Instead, try taking a cold shower. Ice water decreases your heart rate and when in the midst of an attack your heart rate can skyrocket! If you are experiencing an attack while at work and don't have access to a shower, splash your face with cold water instead.

Breathing Techniques

Deep breathing can slow the heart rate and stabilize blood pressure. According to an article on Harvard Health Publishing we tend to avoid deep breathing because it requires us to expand our stomachs. Our culture is obsessed with having flat stomach that we tend to hold them in which can revert to shallow chest breathing that can cause tension and anxiety. I recommend trying some deep breathing exercises when you start to feel stressed or uneasy. It can help reset your mind and bring clarity to your thoughts.


When I moved to LA 5 years ago I didn't get the yoga craze! There are literally just as many yoga studios as there are Starbucks'. However, after switching my career and experiencing an all new type of stress, I decided to give it a try. Now I understand! Yoga helps to teach you how to breathe properly and can also reduce the secretion of cortisol, the stress hormone! It helps to increase in flexibility and balance along with promoting better sleep quality.


Scents have the ability to impact our bodies through our nervous system. I recently came across an article on Psychology Today that explains the olfactory nerve gives us a sense of smell and is responsible for sending signals to the limbic system and amygdala, which are in charge of emotions, memory, and mood.

Some of my favorite essential oils include: Lavender, Bergamot, Eucalyptus, and Lemon. If you are interested in getting more in depth information about the benefits of these oils, let me know. I will create another blog post along with some chakra knowledge.


Meditation is the practice of training your mind to focus on one thing. Our minds are so powerful, that if we obsess over negative thoughts it can cause our entire nervous system to go haywire. To take control of your anxiety you need to control your thoughts. Easier said than done, I know, but it can be done.

I give this tip a lot because how you think can dictate your life.

If you think negatively, those vibrations will come back to you. If you think positively you will live a more positive life. Now I am not saying that bad things won't happen to you, because they will, its life, but your reactions to bad things will change.

So, I challenge you today to create a safe space where you can relax and practice some breathing techniques. Dilute some essentials oils and warm the fragrances in your hands and inhale deeply and lay in a comfortable position. Train your mind to focus on one thing and manifest good things! Ask yourself "What am I grateful for"? and "What beauty am I creating, cultivating, and inviting in today"?

I hope these tips help you and if they do please share so that others can benefit. If you have other techniques that help with your anxiety I would love to hear about them! Remember that this is only temporary!