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  • Meagan A. Culberson

4 Ways You Can Improve Your Body Image

Updated: Jun 10


Growing up, I always dealt with weight issues and developed a bit sooner than others. So my relationship with my body was rocky from an early age. The moment puberty started, all hell broke loose because soon after, hormonal and cystic acne decided to take center stage. It was not until last year that my relationship with my body started to change for the better because after years of self-loathing, I told myself it was time to change my perspective regarding it.


Once I started implementing small changes, I quickly began to realize everything my body does for me and became extremely grateful. I still have moments when I obsess over the things that I want to improve on, however, I am happy to be in a better place. I have learned how to properly listen to my body and recognize when I need to rest and reset and I've taken self-care to a whole new level. As always, I wanted to share what I've been doing with you all in hopes that it would inspire you to alter your relationship with your own body too.



Positive Affirmations


Positive Affirmations are a must-do in all self-care rituals and are incredibly crucial for your betterment. I will continue to say it, type it, and shout it until it takes root in your life! Your words have so much power and alter the way that you think. I know that this is easier said than done, but catching yourself when you begin to speak negatively is key to changing the trajectory of your thoughts. Our thoughts trigger emotions that can play a large part in raising or lowering our vibrational energy. If you aren't in the place you want to be, just remind yourself that transformation takes time! I seem to be patient with and extend grace to everyone else, and I have decided that my self-care routine would include granting myself the same courtesy.

Some great affirmations are:

I Accept Myself Unconditionally

I Am Worthy

I Am Valuable

I Am Patient


I love these affirmations because they help clear and unblock your solar plexus chakra, which is the chakra that is responsible for your self-esteem and aids you in standing in your power. You can also incorporate essential oils such as Rosemary, Roman Chamomile, Lemon, and my absolute favorite Lavender in your daily meditation to help strengthen this chakra. Make sure to mix these oils with a carrier oil such as Jojoba oil if you decide to use them on your body.


Being positive and controlling your thoughts can aid you greatly in your journey. There will be challenging moments but remember, change will come as long as you stay consistent.



Think Healthier not Skinner


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I made it a mission to create healthier habits before my thirtieth birthday! I have altered my lifestyle by reducing my meat consumption, have become obsessed with vitamins, and took up yoga. Although my goal is to lose weight, I have decided to switch my thinking to becoming healthier rather than just becoming skinnier. I don't weigh myself every day, and I look at the inches lost and celebrate every win, whether I meet my water consumption or stay under my calorie count for the day!


I have concluded that I will never be a size two because 1. I want to keep my curves and 2. I love food and could never give up sweets. So by making healthier choices more often I am creating a healthier balance and allow myself to indulge in the things I love in moderation. Other steps I've taken include taking the stairs as often as possible, walking to places that are less than 3 miles away from my current location, indulging in natural sugars instead of processed, and exercising regularly. Over time, I will see the results I desire, but now I am working on becoming 1% better every day.

Indulge in Self Pleasure aka Masturbate


In case you weren't aware, May is National Masturbation Month. The commemoration was created back in 1995 by a sex shop called Good Vibrations, shortly after the then-Surgeon General, was fired for advising that masturbation be a part of the sex education curriculum. Whether you participate in the act or not, there are numerous benefits to masturbating. Masturbation can help boost your overall mood by increasing oxytocin, endorphins, and serotonin which can aid in regulating your stress.


These endorphins can also help you sleep and reduce your blood pressure, and nine times out of ten, it can be very satisfying. Additionally, it helps you with connecting with your body. So go ahead, have at it, because science shows us that it is good for you!

Stop Comparing Yourself


I find myself playing the comparison game quite often, especially when those younger than me are more successful. I feel as if I must have done something wrong to have not yet reached the same milestones, and I begin to overwork myself to try and play catch up. I try not to overwhelm myself with toxic positivity and allow myself to feel my feelings. But sometimes, the worries of not succeeding cripple me.

The truth is that nobody knows how much time they're given, and we tend to find ourselves rushing to get the results we want because we don’t want to miss any opportunities, at least I know I do. But if we focus on the now and the things we can control, those worries will begin to melt away. I have found that daily mediation has helped me center myself and by continuing to be consistent with my goals I am producing the progress I want to see.


I know everything will happen in divine time and divine order. And comparing myself and my journey with others won’t make my journey very enjoyable and I want to live an enjoyable life. When I recognize myself playing the comparison game, I take a step back from social media. Social media can have us covet what our favorite influencers have and make us forget all about the blessings that are right in front of us. Also, listing all of the things that you are grateful for can help too. It has helped me to remember that I am a lot more fortunate than others and allows me to value the precious things in my life.

Additionally, with more and more body-positive influencers and encouraging body-positive campaigns, I have found myself more comfortable showing off my curves. We still have a long way to go until society fully recognizes true beauty in all shapes and sizes. However, seeing brands include more women that look like me in their marketing campaigns has helped me with healing my body image.

If you find yourself struggling with your body image, I hope you give these tips a try. And if you know someone that is, please send these suggestions their way. I want all women to feel beautiful, and I feel the best way to healing our body image is by working on taking care of ourselves mentally and physically.


Written by

MEAGAN A. CULBERSON


Meagan is the Creator and Founder of SingleGirlClub.com. She strives to create content that will help encourage single women to build better relationships with themselves and inspire them to work towards their personal goals. Additionally, she is an aspiring film and tv producer and resides in Los Angeles, California.